Can anyone offer me some advice?

Me and my soon-to-be husband experienced the same sort of thing. Honestly I got to the same point where you are, always initiating and trying to talk to him about why we aren't having enough . I finally figured out that these things only made him not want to even more. Here's what I did....stopped mentioning to him (in a negative or are we gonna do it? way), started dressing ier around the house, DO NOT initiate - eventually he'll be in the mood and initiate it- which apparently initiated it was a HUGE turn on to him. Be physical (kissing and touchy) w/o trying for . Also if you really need some, pleasure yourself- in the bedroom- he might just happen to walk by and join in. Good luck and be patient, he is probably as frustrated as you. My fiancee said me being after him all the time immasulated him and made him feel like he wasn't enough (which lower his drive)