What upset you the most at a funeral?

I am a young widow and when my late husband ped away and my brother and sister in law flew in and stayed with me and complained the whole time how expensive the airfare was. They did not have flowers for him either, nor my husbands father or his sisters. The father and sisters did not travel to the funeral, the father saying it was too far, one sister was pg and couldn't fly, although I thought she could have driven and the other sister is scared to leave the house and can't stand being in a car although someone offered to drive her. None of the immediate family was there, but the fathers brothers (my husbands uncles) traveled to be there. I was forever grateful for their attendance. The father and none of the sisters had floral arrangements for him and one sister works for a floral shop. I was upset because no one made any effort in at least getting him flowers. I had the burial months later (he was cremated) and the father and one sister showed up for that, but again no flowers. The father showed up only because he was being buried in the city he was living in. At the burial I was the only one that got a floral arrangement. Yes, flowers die, but aren't flowers suppose to show respect towards the deceased.