Can someone just prove to me that he wasnt the perfect bf so i can move on?

FIrst of all, He is just one of MANY other men out there in the world. He does not own you and cant control his feelings for you obviously if he is OD-ing on over-the-ounter painkillers. Second, if he talking to his ex he obviously feels something for her still otherwise he could care less. And third, its your life, take this one breakup and use it as your advantage, exceed in something at work or school, to make you feel proud of yourself for doing something successful without him. Also trying changing your look, dye your hair, join a gym, just so you can shed off the old past and imagine starting over fresh. Love the life you live, and Live the life you love. Life is now.