Question for the girls?

Honestly I think that I feel more comfortable when Im in control. Not total control because it should be pretty much equal but Im the kind of person where when Im not in control I get kinda scared and nervous because I don't know where things are going ( if that makes any sense at all?) And i don't really know how i feel about other women I guess it just depends on the kind of relationship they are in and how both people feel about things.